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As the old saying goes, good sex is a marathon and not a sprint.

The best-conditioned athletes in the world train for years to become winning long-distance runners. You do not have to go into training to become good at sex, but there are exercises you can do that will help improve your performance and enhance the sexual pleasure for you and your partner.

You don't need to join the gym to be prepared for good sex, but it certainly would not hurt.

Stretch To Improve Sex 

If you want to improve sex then you need to be as flexible as possible. You do not need to be able to do splits to the floor, but you should be able to have sex without pulling a hamstring. People can sometimes forget how physically demanding sex can be and are only reminded when they injure themselves. Stretch the muscles in the back of your legs and your calves every day by doing some basic stretching exercises in the morning and evening. Stretching our your back when you have a few seconds by reaching high above your head will keep your lower back muscles from giving out on you when that special moment arrives.

Jogging To Be Better In Bed

Jogging will improve sex in several ways. First of all, jogging releases your body's natural energy and gives you the stamina you need to perform in the bedroom. Jogging also helps improve your ability to breathe more efficiently and helps you to last longer for those more passionate intimate moments.

A steady jogging routine also build leg muscles which can be very convenient during sex.

Bicycling For Your Bedroom Life

Bicycling can be beneficial for men when it comes to sex because it helps to make the inner thigh and groin muscles stronger. Not only will this enhance the sexual experience, but it will also help the man to have more control of his orgasms. The stronger thigh and groin muscles can also lead to stronger and more sustained erections.

You do not need to train like an Olympic athlete to have better sex. But if you want to improve the experience that you and your partner have in the bedroom, and reduce the chances that you could injure yourself while in a most compromising position, then you should look into doing some basic exercises that will improve the sexual experience.

One of the foremost authorities on satisfying sex is the Kama Sutra. It is a book that is read and studied by couples all over the world. The Kama Sutra is more than just a collection of sexual positions, it is also a resource for some excellent sex tips.

Sex Tips From Kama Sutra

If you are a man or a woman looking to prolong sexual satisfaction and give more for your partner, then sex tips from the Kama Sutra are one of the best places to start.

- Treat Sex Like a Marathon and not a Sprint

Too many men look at sex as a race to see how quickly they can finish. While that works out great for the guy, it leaves the woman extremely unsatisfied. One of the best ways to prolong sexual pleasure for both of you is for a guy to learn how to control his body. When the man feels that he may be approaching orgasm, he should momentarily stop and move back into foreplay activity. Gradually, as the man learns to understand his own body signs, he can learn to control his sexual performance and turn it from a sprint into a pleasurable marathon.

- Take Sex Slow

Both men and women tend to get overly excited when the prospect of sex presents itself. To get the most out of sex, men and women need to learn to slow down and get into a rhythm that will make sex much more pleasurable. One of the ways to do this is to learn to breathe deeply and gradually as you get into the act of foreplay before sex. Your body's rhythm will usually follow your breathing patterns. The more gradually you breathe, the more gradual the act of sex will become.

- Experiment In The Bedroom

One of the things that the Kama Sutra endorses is sexual experimentation. Some people can become shy or conservative when it comes to sex and avoid experimenting. But you never know whether you do or do not like something until you have tried it at least once. By opening up to sexual experimentation, you may start finding new things that you enjoy significantly and that add a great deal to the sexual experience.

The Kama Sutra is often considered to be the guide book to performing good and satisfying sex. Once you start exploring the advice the Kama Sutra has to offer, you will be opening many new doors to sexual gratification.

Ok, men, listen up. The number one tip from women on how to have better sex and improve your love life is…drum roll please…romance!

Yes, men, romance your lady more often and things just might get heated up in the bedroom more frequently.

To be romantic you don’t have to go up and spend thousands of dollars on diamonds, though I’m sure if you have plenty of extra cash lying around, diamonds can’t hurt. However, there are many less expensive ways to be romantic and get her in the mood more often.

How to Romance Your Woman

• Buy her some flowers
• Take her out to dinner
• Make her a nice romantic dinner
• Buy her some candles, light them, and turn down the lights
• Buy her some sexy lingerie - the kind she’ll actually wear - French maid costumes don’t count.
• Take her shopping and help her pick out some clothes.

Once you have set the scene with some romance, and you have gotten her in the mood, here are some tips to make sex more romantic and fun.

5 Sex Tips For Men

• Sex is not a race. Slow down, take your time and remember that, though the destination is fun, sex is a journey, not a destination.
• Take a trip down memory lane. Did you used to seduce her in the backseat of the car? Relive those memories. Did you used to have a quickie on the kitchen counter? Well, the counter’s still there! Reliving those long-ago and far-away encounters will reenergize a lagging sex life.
• Turn off the TV. The less the television is on, the more sex you’ll have. Don’t believe it? Try it and you may be amazed.
• Foreplay should not be routine. If you always follow a certain routine, change it up every once in awhile. You might be amazed at how fun this can be for her - and you!
• Talk to her. Communication is the key to any successful relationship. You have to talk about the kids, money, chores, and schedules. Don’t forget to also talk about sex. Tell her what you like, what you fantasize about, and what you would like to do in the bedroom (or anywhere else). Ask her what she likes, fantasizes about, and what she would like to do in the bedroom. Communication also includes compliments -  flattery will get you almost anywhere!

Most everyone has heard that the three most important things in real estate are location, location, and location. Well, the three most important things that keep a woman interested in sex are romance, romance, and romance.

So, men! Visit the CAHPA members's sites, pick up a romantic gift and remember that romance is truly the key to her heart and other parts of her anatomy. Romance is one of the best ways to improve your love life.

Most people want to have better sex. Many couples eventually find that a once exciting and plentiful sex life has become routine and infrequent. It happens - life gets in the way. As you mature, it is natural to have less energy. Kids, work, and the daily grind of living have negative effects on your sex life.

Can this be reversed? Well, yes and no. It is perfectly natural for a relationship to mature and slow down a bit. However, that doesn’t mean it has to come to a screeching halt!

There are many things that couples can do to spice things up in the bedroom. But there is one tip that many men would offer their partner if asked.

The #1 Tip to Improve Sex - From Men to Women

Kink it up! Yes, ladies, your man would like a little more kink in their sex lives. A little more kink will get them to put down the remote, get off the couch, and jump into bed…with you!

Making things racier and spicier in the bedroom can mean different things for different couples. It can mean anything from having her wear stilettos during sex to bringing in an extra person. One is quite mild while the other is at the extreme end of the kink scale. It all depends on the desires of each couple.

The first step to kinking things up in the bedroom is to communicate. Communication is the key to a happy sex life as a relationship matures. Couples need to communicate to each other their wants, fantasies and boundaries. A playful interchange of ideas will lead to wild times between the sheets!

The second key to making things kinkier in the bedroom is to have an open mind. A willingness to try new things, even step outside your comfort zones, may lead to new and enjoyable experiences for both of you.

The third key to creating a new kinky sex life is to accept your partner’s boundaries. As long as she has an open mind about trying new things, it is essential to understand that everyone has certain sexual thresholds they may never want to cross. The spirit of compromise should always be part of sexual exploration. Understanding your partner’s boundaries is as important as understanding her or his fantasies.

The fourth key to kinking things up in your sex life is communication. Yes, that was also the first key, but communication is so vital to any relationship that it should be reiterated. Communication is important in every aspect of your relationship, and sex and intimacy is no exception. Maintaining a satisfying sex life as a relationship matures is nearly impossible without it.

So, ladies, visit a CAHPA distributor.... get out the stilettos, the whips and chains, and kink it up for better sex. If you do, you may even get your man to do the laundry or wash the dishes once in awhile!

How To Get In The Mood for Sex

Is the excitement in your relationship lagging? Has the spice in your bedroom disappeared? If so, you may want to try this great sex mood enhancer to liven things up.

What is this sex mood enhancer? Is it something exotic? Some type of fancy sex toy? No, it is something known to help relieve stress, increase health, and boost a lagging sex life. What is it?

Massage Enhances Sexual Mood

Massage! That’s right, spice things up in the bedroom with a good old-fashioned sensual massage.

You don’t need to be a licensed massage therapist or have taken courses on massage. With just a little loving care, some communication, some sensual massage oil, a table or flat ground, and you have set the scene for a great massage.

Everyone likes to be touched, and everyone enjoys having their muscles rubbed. Combining the therapeutic and the sensual aspects of touch into one great massage will certainly create an erotic mood for both partners.

Enhance Sexual Relationships

For some extra spice - hire a masseuse or a masseur to enhance your sexual relationship!

If you are an adventurous couple, and you don’t mind spending some money, you could try hiring a professional massage therapist to come over and give one or both of you a massage. If you have enough cash burning a hole in your pocket, hire two therapists, one for each of you.

It is much more erotic to have the massage therapist come to your home than for you to go to their place. If you go out for a massage, you would have to get dressed, drive home, and then get back in the mood to continue the erotic evening. However, if the therapist comes to you, once they are done working their tactile magic, the two of you can remain undressed and continue the fun without having to get dressed or drive anywhere. The massage therapist will rev up your motors; then the two of you can go for a long, wild drive!

Massage and touch is inherently sexual. As long as you don’t put your partner to sleep with a touch that is too relaxing, massage is almost a sure-thing to get your partner in the mood.

Everyone Can Give a Massage

Make sure to select a lightly scented massage oil that is not too sticky. When you begin the massage, remember to take your time, and start with some therapeutic strokes to relax and refresh your partner’s body. When you feel your partner is relaxed and ready, move on to the more sexual strokes, working your way to the erogenous areas. With some patience, a loving touch, and some playful exploration, your massage with quickly heat up the night!

Massage is a great sex mood enhancer and will quickly liven up your sex life. Set a date with your partner, get out the oil, get undressed, and have some fun! There is a wide variety of massage oils that can enhance your relationship available at CAHPA member websites.

If you use sex toys, and I know you do, you’ll want to keep them running like a charm. After all, a dead vibrator is not a good vibrator and a unclean toy is not one you’ll want to use again. Sex toys cshould be kept clean and in good working order so you will save money and be happy!

The number one way to keep your sex toys running like a charm is to keep them clean. All CAHPA member companies sell toy cleaning solutions. In a pinch you can always use warm water and antibacterial soap.  You should also make sure to clean them as soon as possible after use.

Remember not to submerge any vibrators or battery-operated toys in water unless they are waterproof. Doing so could ruin your toy!

Specifics On Cleaning Your Sex Toys

Here are specifics on cleaning different types of sex toys:

• Plastic - use rubbing alcohol on a cotton ball. Follow up with some warm water.
• Rubber - rubber is a very porous material and difficult to clean completely. Rubber sex toys should be used with a condom and then cleaned with warm water and soap.
• Jelly - clean with warm water and soap, but do not boil as they will disintegrate.
• Silicone - you can boil it in water or run it through a dishwasher unless it is a vibrator. For vibrators and other battery-operated toys, wash with warm water and soap, or you can use hydrogen peroxide or bleach mixed with warm water
• Pyrex - these are easy to clean with soap and water. You can also boil these, but they can crack with a sudden change of temperature, so boil slowly and let them cool down in the water before removing them.

Besides keeping all your toys clean, another way to keep them working is to use batteries properly. Don’t keep batteries in your toys if there are long periods of time between use or if the batteries are dead. Dead batteries, or ones not used for long stretches of time will often leak nasty substances that corrode everything. If this happens, make sure to wear some rubber gloves when you remove the batteries as the substances are toxic!

Keeping your sex toys clean and running smoothly will allow you to get many hours of use from them. It can be very frustrating to get a sex toy out in a moment of passion or when the mood strikes and find out it no longer works!

The Official Teenage Sex Talk

The subject of teenage sex is a delicate topic. It can be so uncomfortable that many parents put off the talk indefinitely. By the time they get up enough courage to have “the talk”, their teenager is already having sex.

The average age for teenagers to have sexual intercourse for the first time is 16-17.

It is imperative that parents muster up the courage and sit down and talk with their kids early in their teenage years. There is some evidence that kids who have had the teenage sex talk with their parents delay their first sexual experience, use contraception when they do have sex, and have fewer sex partners.

Make The Teen Sex Talk A Success

7 Suggestions For a Beneficial Teen Sex Talk

• Choose the right moment
• Ask open-ended questions
• Be a good listener
• Relate sex to respect and love
• Be explicit
• Offer suggestions and strategies
• The talking about sex shouldn’t end when the sex talk ends

It is never easy to find the right moment to talk with your teenager about sex, but finding an appropriate moment will help you ease into the conversation. Perhaps you have just watched a movie with a love scene or watched a news report about another unfaithful politician (there’s enough of those!). Those moments might serve as good segues into a conversation about sex.

When talking to your teen, don’t just lecture. Your teen will just nod and say “uh huh.” Ask questions that require an answer and keep the conversation going. Once you get them talking, listen to them. Teens are used to hearing their parents lecture and are good at tuning them out. By listening to what teens have to say, the conversation will gradually become more two-sided.

Teenage Sex Conversation

When having the actual conversation, you should always frame sexual expression in terms of love and respect. Teens obviously see that sex is not always related to love, but they should be taught that sex and respect can always go together. During this conversation, as uncomfortable as it may be, explicit talk is required. Don’t be fooled - teenagers, both boys and girls, are already talking about sex in explicit terms with their friends. Don’t be afraid to use explicit terms; your teen already knows the words!

As a parent, you are supposedly the wise one; you should be able to offer strategies to get out of sexual situations to both your daughter and your son. Suggestions about how to protect themselves, contraception, STDs, respecting the opposite sex, and sexual harassment and abuse should all be integral parts of the conversation.

Once you’ve had the teenage sex talk, the conversation isn’t over. Talking with your teen about sex should be an ongoing conversation. Once you have opened the lines of communication, it is important that they stay open. You may not think that your teen wants to talk, and they may not act like they want to talk, but they do.

Advice For The Talk

Do you have any advice on how or what you can do to make the teen sex talk go better? Post your thoughts in the comment box below.