Certified Adult Home Party Association (CAHPA)

Icebreakers For Adult Home Party

One of the important tasks of a romance consultant is to help break the ice at an adult home party event and get the participants talking. A good icebreaker game will do the trick.

Some of your guests may be at their first adult party and not know what to expect.

You need to put together a fun icebreaker game that will get your guests talking and laughing, while also helping new guests to understand what the party is all about.An icebreaker game at an adult party needs to set the tone of fun and the freedom to discuss sexuality without having any inappropriate undertones. It can sound difficult to avoid inappropriate undertones at a sex toy party, but remember that you are trying to set the atmosphere of having fun and not trying to intimidate your guests. If you can get your guests to blush and giggle a little at first, then you are on your way to a successful event.

Adult Party Icebreaker = Mad Libs

One game you can use at your next sex toy party is a version of “Mad Libs” where you take a story that a guest has written and replace some of the words in it with the words “sex” or “sex toy.”

• Ask each person at your sex toy party to write down something that requires a lot of activity. You can ask your guests to write down the steps to performing an oil change, scrubbing a floor or anything that can be described in a series of steps that involve activity such as kneeling, scrubbing or anything like that.
• Have your guests submit their descriptions to you and then you hand them back to the group but to different people. Make sure that no one gets her or his own story back. It is easier for people to tear apart someone else’s writing than their own.
• Tell each guest to replace every mention of the activity that is being written about with the words “having sex” and then replace the mention of tools with sex toys such as a vibrator or a sex doll.
• When everyone is done making the changes, have them read the newly edited descriptions back one at a time and help the laughter along by making sure everything remains fun and light-hearted.

This game turns the simple process of washing dishes into a full sexual encounter. The sentence “Washing dishes requires hot water, soap and a good scrubbing pad “ turns into “Having sex requires hot water, soap and a good pair of handcuffs.” It should help break the ice and get your event off to a good start.

Business professionals who have always wanted to get into the adult party business but were not sure if they would be able to handle it need only to understand the characteristics of a good romance consultant.

If you considering a promising romance business opportunity but are unsure if it is the right thing for you, then take a bit of a personal inventory to see if it is a good career move.

Characteristics Of Successful Romance Consultants

1. One of the most important characteristics about a good romance consultant is that she is not shy when it comes to talking about sex. A romance business opportunity is a chance for you to get involved with people who are interested in sex and want to get the most out of every sexual experience. That means that they are going to want to talk about sex and get your advice. You need to be comfortable with every sex topic and be ready with good advice. That means doing research and getting good advice from real medical professionals on how to answer the more serious questions on diseases and other issues.
2. A romance consultant needs to be a good listener. In order to find out what makes people excited and what products will be popular at each event, you need to listen to what your guests are telling you. It is also important to take time to listen to the concerns and questions that each guest has.
3. A romance business opportunity involves getting people together to exchange ideas on different adult products. At each of your events, it is inevitable that you will have shy guests or guests that will be at their first sex party. That is why a good romance consultant needs to know how to make people feel comfortable. You need to know how to break the ice and start a fun conversation. You need to be the life of the party right from the very beginning of the event. This requires a lot of practice and you may even want to spend time shadowing other romance consultants to check out their techniques for getting good adult parties started.
4. A romance consultant needs to be extremely organized and through. You need to be able to keep accurate records on each purchase and each event. You need to spend time becoming familiar with every product you sell to answer questions and close the sale. It is important to keep your resources and information very organized to be successful.

At an adult party, the romance consultant is the center of attention. She finds effective but appropriate ways of showing how the products work and she also knows how to make sure that everyone at each event feels comfortable.

It isn’t always an easy job, but it can be fun and rewarding. Learn more about the romance business opportunity with a CAHPA certified company.

Ok, men, listen up. The number one tip from women on how to have better sex and improve your love life is…drum roll please…romance!

Yes, men, romance your lady more often and things just might get heated up in the bedroom more frequently.

To be romantic you don’t have to go up and spend thousands of dollars on diamonds, though I’m sure if you have plenty of extra cash lying around, diamonds can’t hurt. However, there are many less expensive ways to be romantic and get her in the mood more often.

How to Romance Your Woman

• Buy her some flowers
• Take her out to dinner
• Make her a nice romantic dinner
• Buy her some candles, light them, and turn down the lights
• Buy her some sexy lingerie - the kind she’ll actually wear - French maid costumes don’t count.
• Take her shopping and help her pick out some clothes.

Once you have set the scene with some romance, and you have gotten her in the mood, here are some tips to make sex more romantic and fun.

5 Sex Tips For Men

• Sex is not a race. Slow down, take your time and remember that, though the destination is fun, sex is a journey, not a destination.
• Take a trip down memory lane. Did you used to seduce her in the backseat of the car? Relive those memories. Did you used to have a quickie on the kitchen counter? Well, the counter’s still there! Reliving those long-ago and far-away encounters will reenergize a lagging sex life.
• Turn off the TV. The less the television is on, the more sex you’ll have. Don’t believe it? Try it and you may be amazed.
• Foreplay should not be routine. If you always follow a certain routine, change it up every once in awhile. You might be amazed at how fun this can be for her - and you!
• Talk to her. Communication is the key to any successful relationship. You have to talk about the kids, money, chores, and schedules. Don’t forget to also talk about sex. Tell her what you like, what you fantasize about, and what you would like to do in the bedroom (or anywhere else). Ask her what she likes, fantasizes about, and what she would like to do in the bedroom. Communication also includes compliments -  flattery will get you almost anywhere!

Most everyone has heard that the three most important things in real estate are location, location, and location. Well, the three most important things that keep a woman interested in sex are romance, romance, and romance.

So, men! Visit the CAHPA members's sites, pick up a romantic gift and remember that romance is truly the key to her heart and other parts of her anatomy. Romance is one of the best ways to improve your love life.

Most people want to have better sex. Many couples eventually find that a once exciting and plentiful sex life has become routine and infrequent. It happens - life gets in the way. As you mature, it is natural to have less energy. Kids, work, and the daily grind of living have negative effects on your sex life.

Can this be reversed? Well, yes and no. It is perfectly natural for a relationship to mature and slow down a bit. However, that doesn’t mean it has to come to a screeching halt!

There are many things that couples can do to spice things up in the bedroom. But there is one tip that many men would offer their partner if asked.

The #1 Tip to Improve Sex - From Men to Women

Kink it up! Yes, ladies, your man would like a little more kink in their sex lives. A little more kink will get them to put down the remote, get off the couch, and jump into bed…with you!

Making things racier and spicier in the bedroom can mean different things for different couples. It can mean anything from having her wear stilettos during sex to bringing in an extra person. One is quite mild while the other is at the extreme end of the kink scale. It all depends on the desires of each couple.

The first step to kinking things up in the bedroom is to communicate. Communication is the key to a happy sex life as a relationship matures. Couples need to communicate to each other their wants, fantasies and boundaries. A playful interchange of ideas will lead to wild times between the sheets!

The second key to making things kinkier in the bedroom is to have an open mind. A willingness to try new things, even step outside your comfort zones, may lead to new and enjoyable experiences for both of you.

The third key to creating a new kinky sex life is to accept your partner’s boundaries. As long as she has an open mind about trying new things, it is essential to understand that everyone has certain sexual thresholds they may never want to cross. The spirit of compromise should always be part of sexual exploration. Understanding your partner’s boundaries is as important as understanding her or his fantasies.

The fourth key to kinking things up in your sex life is communication. Yes, that was also the first key, but communication is so vital to any relationship that it should be reiterated. Communication is important in every aspect of your relationship, and sex and intimacy is no exception. Maintaining a satisfying sex life as a relationship matures is nearly impossible without it.

So, ladies, visit a CAHPA distributor.... get out the stilettos, the whips and chains, and kink it up for better sex. If you do, you may even get your man to do the laundry or wash the dishes once in awhile!

Certified Adult Home Party Association 2012 Board of Directors

The Certified Adult Home Party Association (CAHPA) recently announced the results of their annual Board of Directors election held at their annual Board Meeting in Atlantic City, NJ.

Rina Valan, Founder and President of Fantasia Home Parties (Kresgeville, PA) was reelected as President for her sixth consecutive term, joined with Wayne Teres, CEO of Temptations Parties for his third term serving as Vice President.

“It’s always an honor to continue to work with such great people and home party companies. This year we [my business colleagues, along with our Affiliate members in the manufacturing industry], are really excited about the expansion of educational programs for our consultants and are looking forward to continuing our pursuit to identify and promote ethical business practices in our industry”, Valan said regarding the addition of new certification webinars, and expected growth of the organization in the upcoming year.
 
Joining Valan and Teres is Dawn Farrell from PartyGals serving as Secretary, Jim Tolsen from For Ladies Only as Treasurer, and Claudia Arnold of Slumber Parties, Inc serving as Board Member At Large.

Serving Adult Party Plan Companies

CAHPA was founded to address general industry ethical concerns to large Party Plan companies, and has since expanded to include enhanced business training for field consultants, product consultations for Affiliate members, organization wide buying power and commitments and personalized Affiliate sessions.
 
Serving as ‘seal of approval’ for end consumers to base their purchase and business opportunity decisions on, CAHPA members adhere to strict self-imposed guidelines of ethics and business practices. “Before, customers were shooting in the dark hoping the company they were shopping with and working for was reputable, now they have a resource that does that for them, and provides them confidence when they make choices,” Valan says.

A full list of members and membership criteria can be found on CAHPA’s website.

How To Get In The Mood for Sex

Is the excitement in your relationship lagging? Has the spice in your bedroom disappeared? If so, you may want to try this great sex mood enhancer to liven things up.

What is this sex mood enhancer? Is it something exotic? Some type of fancy sex toy? No, it is something known to help relieve stress, increase health, and boost a lagging sex life. What is it?

Massage Enhances Sexual Mood

Massage! That’s right, spice things up in the bedroom with a good old-fashioned sensual massage.

You don’t need to be a licensed massage therapist or have taken courses on massage. With just a little loving care, some communication, some sensual massage oil, a table or flat ground, and you have set the scene for a great massage.

Everyone likes to be touched, and everyone enjoys having their muscles rubbed. Combining the therapeutic and the sensual aspects of touch into one great massage will certainly create an erotic mood for both partners.

Enhance Sexual Relationships

For some extra spice - hire a masseuse or a masseur to enhance your sexual relationship!

If you are an adventurous couple, and you don’t mind spending some money, you could try hiring a professional massage therapist to come over and give one or both of you a massage. If you have enough cash burning a hole in your pocket, hire two therapists, one for each of you.

It is much more erotic to have the massage therapist come to your home than for you to go to their place. If you go out for a massage, you would have to get dressed, drive home, and then get back in the mood to continue the erotic evening. However, if the therapist comes to you, once they are done working their tactile magic, the two of you can remain undressed and continue the fun without having to get dressed or drive anywhere. The massage therapist will rev up your motors; then the two of you can go for a long, wild drive!

Massage and touch is inherently sexual. As long as you don’t put your partner to sleep with a touch that is too relaxing, massage is almost a sure-thing to get your partner in the mood.

Everyone Can Give a Massage

Make sure to select a lightly scented massage oil that is not too sticky. When you begin the massage, remember to take your time, and start with some therapeutic strokes to relax and refresh your partner’s body. When you feel your partner is relaxed and ready, move on to the more sexual strokes, working your way to the erogenous areas. With some patience, a loving touch, and some playful exploration, your massage with quickly heat up the night!

Massage is a great sex mood enhancer and will quickly liven up your sex life. Set a date with your partner, get out the oil, get undressed, and have some fun! There is a wide variety of massage oils that can enhance your relationship available at CAHPA member websites.

If you use sex toys, and I know you do, you’ll want to keep them running like a charm. After all, a dead vibrator is not a good vibrator and a unclean toy is not one you’ll want to use again. Sex toys cshould be kept clean and in good working order so you will save money and be happy!

The number one way to keep your sex toys running like a charm is to keep them clean. All CAHPA member companies sell toy cleaning solutions. In a pinch you can always use warm water and antibacterial soap.  You should also make sure to clean them as soon as possible after use.

Remember not to submerge any vibrators or battery-operated toys in water unless they are waterproof. Doing so could ruin your toy!

Specifics On Cleaning Your Sex Toys

Here are specifics on cleaning different types of sex toys:

• Plastic - use rubbing alcohol on a cotton ball. Follow up with some warm water.
• Rubber - rubber is a very porous material and difficult to clean completely. Rubber sex toys should be used with a condom and then cleaned with warm water and soap.
• Jelly - clean with warm water and soap, but do not boil as they will disintegrate.
• Silicone - you can boil it in water or run it through a dishwasher unless it is a vibrator. For vibrators and other battery-operated toys, wash with warm water and soap, or you can use hydrogen peroxide or bleach mixed with warm water
• Pyrex - these are easy to clean with soap and water. You can also boil these, but they can crack with a sudden change of temperature, so boil slowly and let them cool down in the water before removing them.

Besides keeping all your toys clean, another way to keep them working is to use batteries properly. Don’t keep batteries in your toys if there are long periods of time between use or if the batteries are dead. Dead batteries, or ones not used for long stretches of time will often leak nasty substances that corrode everything. If this happens, make sure to wear some rubber gloves when you remove the batteries as the substances are toxic!

Keeping your sex toys clean and running smoothly will allow you to get many hours of use from them. It can be very frustrating to get a sex toy out in a moment of passion or when the mood strikes and find out it no longer works!

Romance Consultants Give Tips

As an adult toy direct sales romance consultant, your business deals with relationships, intimacy, and sex. You are probably not a sex therapist, but you will hear just as much about people’s sex lives as any therapist does. You may also be asked questions about ways to have and maintain a healthy sex life. Though your training is in sales, you can still offer some sound advice on sexual matters because you have heard it all.

Having some good advice may even help you sell more products. People will admire and respect you if you can provide some wise and useful information on bedroom matters. Admiration and respect can only lead to more sales and more profit!

3 Healthy Sex Tips To Share At Parties:

In addition to the many tips you have to share at your parties about your products these simple ideas are good conversation as well.

Sex Tip #1

Communicatioin is key to good sex! The best and most enjoyable sexual relationships are ones in which both partners can fully express themselves. The ability to talk about sex without embarrassment, or the fear of ridicule, humiliation or jealousy is an essential ingredient to any sexual relationship. Each partner should be able to have her or his wants and needs acknowledged. This doesn’t mean that these wants and needs will always be fulfilled, but acknowledgement and understanding is important in maintaining a healthy, vibrant relationship.

Sex Tip#2

Be adventurous in your sex life! Be open to new suggestions and ideas. This is a great tip to offer at sex toy parties. For many women and couples, the use of sex toys to spice things up is a new idea. This suggestion may help you make more sales! Both partners should feel comfortable suggesting new ways to have fun and should be able to listen and evaluate each suggestion. Some couples may be more experimental than others, but openness to new ideas is vital to maintaining sexual pleasure in any long-term relationship.

Sex Tip #3

Have fun! Sex is fun; it’s not a chore or an obligation. By keeping lines of communication open, trying new ways to spice things up in the bedroom, and remaining sensitive to the feelings of your partner, a couple should be able to keep their sexual relationship fresh and exciting. Kids, work, and the burdens of life often make it difficult to find time for sex. But finding time is essential to the health of your relationship. And when you find the time - make it fun!

These three healthy sex tips are all great suggestions for the women and couples you meet at your parties. Not only are they positive suggestions to keep the spice in a relationship, they may also help you sell more adult toys at your parties.

Sex Toys Improve Sex

Everyone wants good sex, right? However, good sex should not only be the domain of the young or the newly coupled. Is it possible to continue to have good sex as your relationship matures and ages? You bet it is!

As relationships mature, life often gets in the way. Kids, family, work, chores, and the routine of daily life interfere with romance. Familiarity also becomes an issue for some couples. How do you spice things up in the bedroom and get out of a sexual rut?

Sex Toys Spice Up The Bedroom

Toys! Yes, toys can be the answer to a lax sex life by putting the grind back into the horizontal bump and grind! Toys can be a fun way to improve your sex life.

Where Do You Find Sex Toys?

• Adult store
• Online Store
• Sex toy party

A few decades ago, adult stores were the main places people bought sex toys. Many of these places were dank and dirty and not at all inviting to women. Men snuck in under the cloak of darkness, made their purchase, checked both ways as they exited the store to make sure no one was looking, and then motored away. But, the home party arena and the internet changed all that!

The ease and convenience of purchasing adult products online cannot be denied. There are thousands of sites that sell products. They are easy to use, have colorful pictures, and provide detailed descriptions. The Internet is a great way to buy products designed to invigorate your sex life.

Buy Sex Toys From Party Company

There is one additional way to buy adult products - home parties. Along with tupperware, kitchen aids, jewelry, and a host of other products, you can buy sex toys at home parties. Most of these parties are for women only, but there are also some for couples.

These parties are usually hosted by a friend, neighbor, co-worker, or acquaintance. A direct sales consultant brings her product line and allows you to touch and feel a variety of different products. You can easily purchase lube, lotions, oils, vibrators, lingerie, and other exciting products designed to set off a spark in the bedroom.

These parties offer a convenient way to purchase adult toys and they also provide a night of hilarity and fun. A few glasses of wine, some fun party games, some sex talk, and a product line filled with almost every imaginable sex toy makes for a great night.

Certified Sex Toy Companies

Get your next sex toys from an adult home party company! Either online or off, the CAHPA certified companies always act under a code of ethics and with utmost professionalism.

When you come home with a bag filled with goodies from an adult pleasure party, your husband will take notice. Let the sparks fly and the fireworks begin. Toys - one of the best ways to improve your sex life!

How do you plan for a great new year in your adult home party business? Get started by writing a business plan. A business plan will get you started on your way to a profitable and successful year.

Why Do You Need a Business Plan?

• Provides an outline for the coming year.
• Create business objectives and goals.
• Create marketing and promotional strategies that you can employ during the year to help you reach your business objectives and goals.
• To detail new strategies to recruit new team members to quantify your objectives toward team growth.
• To create ways to become more organized and efficient in your office.
• To create a proposed outline of expenses.
• To set specific goals for your team and each member of your team and to outline ways for them to reach those goals.
• To outline strategies for networking.
• To value your business for estate and taxation purposes.
• To put into one document the details of your business and ways to keep it profitable and thriving in the new year.

Even if you have a business plan, the start of a new year is a great time to create an updated plan. An effective business plan is a work in progress. Most businesses continue to evolve and your business plan should evolve with it.

A Home Business Plan Outline

Just like major corporations home business owners should use a business plan to give focus and direction to their activities. Your business plan should be in writing, not just ideas in your head. Here’s a brief outline for an effective adult home party business plan.

• Cover sheet with mission statement
• Summary of the business - purpose and objectives.
• Body of the document.
• Marketing strategies
• Details of the competition.
• Team - current team members and details on proposed members.
• Strategies to recruit additional team members.
• Team training strategies.
• Networking strategies.
• Office organization and ways to increase efficiency.
• Business valuation - assets and liabilities.
• Tax and legal issues - tax payments, licenses, lease agreements, and other legal documents.
• Creative and speculative ways to improve your business - new product lines, untried promotional methods and other “outside-the-box” ideas.

While many of these points may not apply to you working from home, although most home businesses will have some variation of the same themes. A business plan quarantees your business success.